People always ask “Are you a glass half empty or a glass half full type of person?" Sod that - My glass is full to the top, infact its overflowing…..take some of mine and top yours up!
In a world of negativity, keyboard ninjas with their agendas and ideals, depression, anxiety, body issues, racism, diet haters, the list goes on…. it can be all to easy to get sucked into other peoples ways of thinking and forget what YOU have.
So many people are spending days, weeks, months, years, even decades in careers and with people that are diametrically opposed to who they are. I cannot stress how important it is to find alignment in career, friendships, relationships and health so that you in turn can be happy!
I remember one New Years day I made a resolution to say NOTHING negative for the month of Jan to see where it would lead. Within 2 days people of Zero negativity, people were commenting on my positivity! I wasn't a negative person before but the penny had dropped that I needed to realign with MY values.
Try it for a week and see how you feel -
Traffic Jam? More time to listen to my podcast.
Baby keep waking up in the night? Perfect chance to give her a cuddle.
Someone at work complaining about management? Highlight areas where they instilled some prior positive action that affected you.
I have always thought why are people spending their life working in a job they do nothing but complain about to earn money for spending on things with the sole purpose of making them happy? Why not just spend the majority of your time BEING happy.
Perhaps dropping your career to go and run in the mountains is unrealistic right now, so here are some other options:
Remember - We are all only here once. You have a choice. No-one else is going to make it happen for you. You can mope around unhappy trying to find the pockets of happiness where you can OR you can stand tall, hold your head up high, smile and perhaps it will rub off on someone. Failing that - come and see me and I will give you a hug!
- Request to work on projects that interest YOU and express these interests withy our employer, manager. - More than likely it will be an area where you’ll produce the best results.
- Surround yourself with people who are positive! You have the choice of who you spend your time with and Its time to ditch the baggage. Have someone in your inner circle who is always negative…then tell them to change or make your circle smaller!
- Celebrate your successes! It does not need to be a pizza every time you hit a deadline but show yourself more self-care for the wins - Have a beer, watch a film, get your nails done, a massage, a small glass of wine, a new book or that new bag of coffee beans.
- Rethink your environment. Again this boils down to you being a product of what's around you: If you are in a calm, happy environment then you are more likely to be calm and happy, if the environments is negative and stressful then guess what…………
I also can’t stress enough, if you’re feeling unable to do this yourself - ask for help, whether it’s a friend, family member, coach or therapist - there is noweakness in getting the help you need to live a happier life.
By: Rob Jones, Endurance Coach