In my experience, life can be pretty hectic. Although most of us have plenty to manage in our day-to-day lives—work, relationships, family, exercise, sleep, you name it—there are really only a few things we have control over. I changed my life by identifying these variables and learning how to master them. And If I can you can too.
Happiness and success (however you define either one) have a lot to do with each other. I think both can be achieved with some simple and straightforward tweaks in ones habits, or making changes to your routine which, little by little, add up to major changes in how you’re living your life.
We make millions of little decisions all the time (consciously and unconsciously), and the result of each one is either net positive, net negative, or neutral. The more net positive decisions we can make (and the fewer net negative ones), the better. Net positive decisions—brushing your teeth before bed, eating healthy food, and regularly going to the gym—help you feel good and bring you one step closer to your goals despite the effort they take.
Net negative decisions, such as filling up on food that doesn’t make you feel good, skipping the nightly teeth-brushing, letting that downer friend cramp your style, or forgoing the gym—make it difficult to reach your goals because your decisions don’t make you feel good, empowered, or confident. They take more out of you than they give, interfering with your energy levels, sapping your motivation, and clouding your focus.
While the healthier choice may seem harder, it pays off bigger and that’s what you need to remember – the bigger picture. And you’ll be surprised by just how easy these choices can be once you make the effort. By learning how to master the things that are within our control, you will start to make more net positive decisions, fewer net negative ones, and find that empowering, positive behaviors become second nature. So let go of all the stuff you can’t control and start using your time to master what you can control. Before you know it, you’ll be living your best life ever.
My top 10 things that I can control, and suggest you start with:
- Your attitude
- Your thoughts
- The people you surround yourself with
- Your physical well-being
- How you treat others
- Whether you ask for help or not
- Your gratitude towards what you have
- How you spend/invest your money
- Whether or not you try again after a setback
- Your daily habits
By: Minhal Bhojani, Performance Coach